Valentine's Day

 I love my wife.

I probably don't tell her often enough, and I definitely don't show her often enough, but I do.

I love her.

We do not have the perfect marriage by a loooooong stretch, but we do a pretty good job of it.

The thing is, I watch other couples and I wonder how they manage to live with the obvious tension they have.
I wonder how they can survive with the constant fighting, the argumentative atmosphere.

Don't get me wrong - we have our "moments of intense fellowship" as I have heard it described, and there are times when we don't actually like each other much - I know that sounds shocking - but we never stop loving each other.

You see, true love is not a feeling, but a decision.

That probably sounds strange to some, but it is true.
True love is being there when she needs you, regardless of whether you feel like it or not.

True love is putting her first, and if she loves you, she will put you first.
That way you both end up caring more for each other than yourself, and you both look after each other.
That brings you closer.

We have been married for 25 years now, and I love her more now than I did the day we married.

And let me also say, with the decision to love regardless of feelings, the feelings only get stronger.
I don't love her because I feel in love with her, I feel in love with her because I choose to love her.

And I praise God that He brought us together, and I am thankful every day that she said yes - although I still don't understand why she did.

I put it down to temporary insanity on her part........